Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
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Men and Women - basically different
What women (in this English LK) think ...
What do men expect of women? - We should be…
- beautiful and sexy
- able to cook well
- innocent
- harmonious
- exciting
What is typical of men?
- They aren’t multitasking
- They don’t understand what we say because they don’t listen
- They are unreliable
- They want to protect us
- They think they are better car drivers
- They are spontaneous because they don’t make plans
- They always want to watch sports on TV
- They love to drink (beer)
- They hate to go shopping
- They are not romantic
- They are childish
- They always think about sex
What men (in this English LK) think
Expectations women have: We should
- be faithful,
- be romantic
- be creative, smart
- be funny
- be good lovers
- earn much money
- spend a lot of time with them
- treat them well
- make them compliments
- be honest
- support them in their plans and moods
- listen to them
- help them to fulfill their dreams
Typical of women
- love to go shopping
- buying shoes
- talk badly about other women
- are ambitious
- cook , always clean flat/house
- constantly criticize men
- can`t handle a car
- are too proud
- always make men feel guilty
- use sex strike … :( and tears as weapons
- call their mothers if there are problems
- spend a lot of time in the bathroom
A traditional - and new - thesis: Men and Woman are VERY different
- Read the short wikipedia article and describe the main ideas in your own words! (==> on your user page in this wiki)
- Explain the images/connotations Gray uses in his thesis "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
Articles/Videos supportig this theory:
How can the differences between men and women be explained?
- different basic instincts because of evolution from stoneage: hunters and gatherers
- education of boys and girls especially parents
- society influences our behaviour
- development in different countries
- friends reaction to what you do
- media e.g. reality TV,role models (stars,celebrities), music TV
- school: different reactions to boys/girls behaviour; older pupils
What neuroscience has found out: different, but this needn't be a problem
- men's brains are bigger ==> men are cleverer ??
- men's brains contain more gray matter
- men's part of the brain which controls sexual and social behaviour is bigger
- men mainly use one side to complete tasks
- women's brains work faster because they contain more white matter
- white matter contains more neurons and connections
- women use two halfs of their brain, which are better connected
- women usually score better at language and communication tests
So women and men think differently, but often come to the same results
Reasons for differences:
- evolution?
- society influences boys' and girls' brains in different ways
- attitudes are passed on e.g. from mothers to daughters
- certain areas of the brain are neglected
- for boys e.g. spacial perception is trained by playing football, baseball ...
==> brains are shaped by society and peergroup
Men and Women - born and to be seen as equal?
An answer many psychologists and feminists give: They are quite similar and to be seen as equal ....
Sex-Stereotypes and how they work .... how are we turned into "real" boys/men and girls/women?
| Girls are typically seen as ... | Boys are typically seen as ... |
|---|---|
| * talk a lot | * are quiet |
| * emotional | * unemotional/don't show emotions |
| * illogical | * logical |
| * passive | * active/aggressive |
| * dependent | * independent |
| * kind | * brave |
| * cares for the family | * family provider |
| * unassertive | * striving |
| * weak | * strong |
| * patient | * impatient |
| * creative, like beautiful things | * men don't give a damn about beautiful things, exept women |
How are we turned into real boys or girls? Who is responsible?
Influences/ways of influencing boys or girls:
| behaviour/attitude encouraged in girls | behaviour/attitude encouraged in boys |
|---|---|
| told to be careful | taught to go out and explore the world |
| told to help their mothers | told to help their fathers |
| told to ask for help | solve the problem |
| behave like a lady | behave like a gentleman |
| crying is ok/ feel better after it | don't cry/ cry secretly |
| have to be home earlier/ stay nearby | may roam freely |
| driven everywhere | have to go alone |
boys and girls learn by imitation, from the reactions of their surrounding, from explicit rules and from media and adverts
Sexism in schools - how it used to work
Typical examples of different treatment of boys and girls and the effects
From sexism at school to sexism at work
Is our school sexist???
- Look at This questionnaire used in America to decide if a school is sexist!
- Print it out and answer it (make crosses) for your school life (Grundschule and Gym). Leave out questions 8 on page 1, 10, 13, 18 and 19 on page 2 and questions 9, 10, 11 on page 3.
